Today, I want to discuss something that people rarely talk about, but can be a huge factor in finding success with your voice – Giving Yourself Permission to Mess Up.
You see, in our perfectionistic society, we as people are deathly afraid of failure. We fear what others may think of us if we aren’t perfect, and we shutter even imagining others reactions if we were to fall flat on our faces. This, to me, is a shame.
It’s a shame because
in order to create a different result in anything we’re doing (not just singing), we must be willing to risk going outside of our comfort zone and play with something new. Well, our fear of failure and perfectionistic ways make us much less willing to do this.
I’ve actually had students that were so afraid of failing that they wouldn’t even try something for fear of what would happen. Likewise, I’ve had students that play with something once or twice, and then give up before they ever allow their voice the ability to gain any type of momentum moving in the direction they need to go.
In my opinion, it’s not that it’s too hard, but more so they’re so paralyzed by not knowing what will come out of their mouth that they won’t even try. I can only imagine their inner dialogue… “But what if I mess up? What if I’m no good at this? What if it sounds awful?!?”
It’s these type of people I like to remind that the first time you do something, you’re likely to mess up. It’s not going to be perfect… matter of fact, it may sound absolutely awful!! But, the more you do it, the more someone like me can guide you through the issue and help you achieve the results you’re looking for.
My intention in writing this post isn’t to criticize or complain, but more to encourage you. Be willing to take risks. Get excited about going outside of your comfort zone, because that just means you’re getting closer to accomplishing your goals. Be willing to try, and fail, and try again… always taking one step closer to your final destination. Oh, and don’t be discouraged if you find yourself taking a few steps back now and again. It’s a normal part of the process. Once you realize this, regroup and move forward. Do this, and you’ll be surprised how far it’ll take you.
I hope this helps, and if you’re looking for someone that can help you accomplish your vocal goals faster, I’m now available for skype lessons. Check out my skype voice lessons page for more information on how you can schedule a one-on-one lesson with me from anywhere in the world.
But in the meantime, give yourself permission to mess up, because our failures hold in them our most valuable lessons.
Vocal Coach Ken Taylor